Kids in general are loud. They get excited and their voice amps up with the excitement. They often like to holler (yes I’m a Texan) at each other from across the house. Most often the more kids that are together the louder they are. Our kids are a little different. They have been told over and over again for the past 5 years “shhh, dad has a headache” or “you need to be quiet; dad has a headache”. We still think they are loud, but they try.
It becomes very evident how quiet they are when other kids come around. They can come to our house or we can be at someone else’s house with kids and the octave level just skyrockets. At first we thought it was because there were lots of kids together. Then we noticed if it was just one extra child, that child was so much louder than ours. It wasn’t always the same kids either. There were many different kids. It showed us our kids really are quiet.
Don’t get me wrong, our kids are not church mice. They can be loud. My daughter gets excited and I could hear her perfectly clear from 100 feet away she is talking so loud; unfortunately I am usually right next to her! In general, I think all our shushing has sunk in. Our kids are quieter than most kids in general. They have to be for their dad’s sake.
I don’t know how much our kiddo’s friends actually like to come over. They have to be quiet too. I don’t mean whisper all the time or no talking, I just mean a normal indoor voice. This is somewhat unnatural for kids. I feel bad when their friends are over having to keep saying be quieter please” or “talk softer please” or eventually, “can y’all go play outside please”. I want their friends to come over. I like to see them enjoying spending time with them. I’m just not sure our house is a lot of fun for them.
My daughter is constantly asking for her friend or cousin to come spend the night. I can’t usually say yes due to the anticipated noise level. If dad’s headache is too bad, then he will not be able to tolerate any extra noise. I usually ask him first how he feels about someone spending the night. He usually won’t say no but he does follow up with a “they have to understand they must be quiet”. They don’t stay up late at our house when the spend the night. There’s nothing you can stay up late to do and be quiet. Plus, the house is quieter then so they will be “found out” if they stay up too late talking.
Even our dog is quiet, lol. He doesn’t bark. It is a rarity to hear him bark. If he does you know there is something really wrong. He is not a bark less breed either. He has started howling in the past couple of years but only when he thinks he is alone in the house, which is funny because we are there to hear him. Both the dogs and the kids have adapted to the need to be quiet. We just don’t realize how well they have until we are around other kids. Then we are so grateful that they have for the sake of dad’s head.